8 reason why we(girls/women) cheat.

ok, defending sisterhood before i begin.

most of us(women), never cheat in a relationship.

we fell in love with this one guy and everything he said make sense.

but the bad news is some of us do cheat. 

i just receive a text from my buddy saying he got dump by his girlfriends after he found out that she's been cheating on him with other man.

and here are some interesting fact i found on google about why women cheat on her guy.

1.we are friendly.

although not all of us are very friendly but most of us are.

like me, recently i got like 5-6 buzz on FB chat saying they(male friend) want to be my friends.

and of course i can't just say directly like

"no, i have a boyfriend. so i cannot have any male friends anymore"

duhh. perasan kena urat la kan kalau gitu.

syok sendiri.lol

then we started chatting and we all know how sweet guy's words are.

gosh, i have to admit, some of you guys really know how to hit on a girl!

they'll make you feel like you're the only girl in the world.

watch-out girls!

2.women fall in love real fast.

emm. yes, after the sweet talk and everything, we fall in love really fast.

like okay, you just wanna be friend at first but things got out of and it just happened.

that's why when i receive a chat wanted to be friend i'll always make sure they know i have a boyfriend.

that's actually one of the way to control myself.

IF i still fall for other guy after all that, at least i've tried my very best to prevent that from happening right?

but if it still happen then you know, they said,

'if you fall in love again, choose the second one. because you won't fall in love again if it's true love'

but don't worry.
we don't just fall in love easily.

let's check out reason no.3.

3.when we are not our boyfriend priority

when we are in a relationship, we want to be treated like a partner. 

so, we want to be the first person to called when you guys wake up in morning or the last person you guys want to talk to before you sleep.

we want to be the priority in every decision making that you guys make.

it sound selfish but hey, that's the way we are.

we don't want to be important to the world.

we only want to be important to our boyfriend's world.

and hello we are more than happy if you guys call us first when you guys in trouble.
so why not make us as your priority all the time?

because if we started feel like we are not the priority in our bf's life, why do we even bother to put them as our priority?

4.boyfriend are too boring.

i hate to admit this but yeah some of my friends do cheat on her boyfriend because of this reason. 

i don't really know how to explain this but yes, i love hanging out with fun people.

they keep your stress away.

like i love my girlfriends because they are fun to be with.

kan kan kan. lol

but i honestly think this only applied to younger girl.

or immature women i guess.

because when i was in matriculation college.

around 17-18 YO.

i met this handsome+genius+kind+loyal guy who love me. or whatever.

but i dump him.

no, i am not cheating or anything i just dump him because he's boring.

and now that i think about it, its actually the stupidiest thing i've ever done during my so-called teenage era.

yeah, girls can dump a guy for the dumbest reason.

5.we feel no future with you.

women at my age,we want something serious.

something that we can look forward to. 

like a marriage or a family.

or maybe a promise.

well, of course i haven't think too far such as marriage for my relationship now but yes, i want commitment too.

if you want me to be loyal, don't worry, i'll give up everything for you but you gotta show me some commitment boy.

but if you keep saying 'lets just go with the flow'

or you keep flirting with other girl than we(girls) gonna have to find someone else who are willing to give us the COMMITMENT.

remember there's always someone out there who are ready to promise us the world if you aren't giving it to us already.

;)

6. when we are emotionally vulnerable

guys cheat when they meet someone cuter or sexier than his girlfriend.

but we just need to feel vulnerable.

like when you guys make us feel like we are not important. 

like we just a substitute girlfriend that you gonna leave anytime if you find someone better than us.

or maybe if the relationship are too hard to handle. drama going on. fighting everyday.crying everyday.

no more sweet talk like it used to be.

or if you guys keep cheating day by day.

eventually, we'll feel so tired to fight for the relationship anymore.
and imagine at our very vulnerable time, there's someone else who actually make us feel like we deserve someone better.

7.what goes around must comes around.

we tend to get our revenge back.

once you cheat on us, we'll forgive you.

we'll probably even forgive you if you cheat on us for so many times.

but remember, whatever you guys can do, we'll do it even better!

don't think you are clear just because we take you back.

we know how to play games too.

and do refer reason no.2.

we fall in love easily especially to someone better than you.

no matter how faithful we are if we added the number 3, 5 and number 6 reason, i don't see any reason why we should stick around.

;)

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if you love your girl then keep her like a real partner and not a spare part.

we gonna be damn loyal to you if you treat us right.

we are forgiver, we forgive your mistakes.

we are fighter, we'll fight hard for the relationship.

but you gotta give something back to us too.

it's the give and take process.

now, if you are the perfect, fun,loyal,promising and honest boyfriend but your girlfriend still cheat on you. why?

reason number 8. simply because,SHE'S JUST A B*TCH.

i don't see any reason why you should keep that kind of girl yeah?

as for my friend who just got cheated on his girlfriend, well, no need to cry for that.

she'll regret it someday.

the sweetest revenge is to get up and show her, she's nothing but a *****.

okay, thats all for now. 

p/s,

i'll leave you guys with one of my favourite song from one republic.

SOMETHING I NEED.

XX,

l i l i e j o h n

the girl who can't say goodbye, the boy that can't leave

heeojiji motaneun yeoja,

tteonagaji motaneun namja

saranghaji annneun uri

geuraeseo no no no no no no

meaning.

The girl who can’t say good bye

The boy that can’t leave
The two of us are no longer in love

So no no no no no no 

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Anywhere together in a 3000 dollar used car

Without a care in the world

Linking arms, committing memories in a photo

Understanding each other in our sleepless nights

My dreams became your future

A pair of beautiful birds chasing each other

A love I could never get enough of

A person I want to meet when reborn

But in front of this thing called time

We can’t win against our greed

Sounds of your tears alone in the bathroom

The suspicious gazes focused on me

As the days go by I think of breaking up again

The sun is hot but your heart is frozen

Whose fault is this? But I love you baby

Everything else is the same but we changed

Whose fault is this? I still love you baby

The girl who can’t say good bye

The boy that can’t leave

The two of us are no longer in love

So no no no no no no

I’m so busy that I feel guilty

I fill my wallet with money and make some time

Even though I don’t express my love

When I have dinner and watch a movie with you

I hope you might feel better but

I continue to be in debt to my thoughts

As I walk and tease you

it’s all a played out game

Love is passing,

Love and heartbreak are one and the same

Hearbreak takes love and goes away.

The sun is hot but your heart is frozen

Whose fault is this? But I love you baby

Everything else is the same but we changed

Whose fault is this? I still love you baby

The girl who can’t say good bye

The boy that can’t leave

The two of us are no longer in love

So no no no no no no

Love is passing,

Love and heartbreak are one and the same

Hearbreak takes love and goes away. 

How nice would it be if love

was something that could be earned?

(It’s all a dream, holding your hand)

How nice would it be

if love was something to get by wanting it?

(It’s all a dream but I can’t escape)

Are men caught in love done so because of weakness?

Are men starved of love not worthy of it?

Are men that keep secrets bad men?

Why is it that love changes?

Jean's Little Sister

"when one door closes, another opens"

Anne was staring at the quote long after reading it.

"when-one-door-closes-another-opens"

she read it again one by one slower this time. 

it's been 5 minutes and she was still staring on the same page of the motivational book given by her sister, Jean. 

finally she take a deep breath.

"mmmmhuuuuuuuuuu..."

"really?? "
she said to herself.
"pffffffffffff! the hell"

she closed the book, throw it to her right side and switch on the TV.

she was fired 4 weeks ago.

Anne finished her degree 2 years and ago in Communication.

but five months ago she forced herself to take the job as a clerk in one of non-goverment company after being unemployed for over a year.

and 4 weeks ago, she was fired because the company need to reduce the amount of the staff.
and now she's back to what she was doing 5 months ago. 

"i am home!!"

Jean, her sister announcing her arrival from work loudly.

Anne was looking awhile at Jean placing her shoes on the rack. 

she get jealous for Jean since like forever. 

since they were small it was always been so easy for Jean. 

Jean was famous in highschool.

everyone in the school likes Jean. 

most of the male student approached Anne in highschool also because of Jean.
of course you'll get famous if your sister is the most beautiful, genius and famous student in school.
everyone know Anne as Jean's little sister.

"hey, it's Jean's little sister!"
"it's the Jean the junior!"
"woww,, so you are Jean's junior?"

Anne never saw Jean studying at home but Jean manage to get the best student award during her final year and even get herself into a famous university in the country.

most importantly Jean get a real job only 4 months after her graduation!

plus Jean also have a nice+hot boyfriend and soon to be Anne's brother in law. 

"hey, what are you doing?"

Jean's voice surprise Anne a little.

"hmmm, watching TV i guess"

showing the tv remote control to Jean.

"you seriously look depress"

said Jean while taking over the remote from her and start changing the channel.

"i don't understand. i am sitting here from 7 am in the morning with no responsibility. only eating, sleeping and watching TV until now. i mean this is heaven! why should i be depress?"

Anne was looking at Jean with a big fake question mark on her face.
Jean stopped changing the channel and looking back at Anne.

" really?? well, i don't know heaven was that boring."

they are both looking at each other and then start laughing.

"time to eat honey!"
their mother calling from the kitchen.

"you know what, you better enjoy you last days in heaven!"
said Jean before she throw the white envelope to Anne's and walked into the kitchen.
Anne open the envelope and read the letter carefully.
it was a job offering letter.
she know it was Jean who recommended her name to the company!
Anne was shouting excitedly.
she run off and jump on her sister's back.
Kissing Jean's cheek by force a few times.

"I love u. I love u. I love u. muahhhhhh!"

"stop it"!
Jean screaming.

Jean was the center of attention in her family.
Jean was the smartest.
Jean was brilliant.
it's was always about Jean.
Jean and Jean and Jean.
 and Anne was always jealous of Jean.

but after all Jean is the best sister in the world.
and she's proud of being Jean's little sister.

p/s
second try.
teehee

Used To Be

she looked at the clock on the radio. 

it was 9.08 pm and she was driving to somewhere. 

the man sitting beside are not saying a single words since he entered the car.

usually she will try hard finding a topic to talk to. 

but tonight she's not.

she secretly took a glimpse at his face while driving.

he was looking forward toward the road with his serious face.

she remember that she used to love when that serious face become an irritated face because of her unbearable singing while he's driving. 

she used to love driving with him.

there's so much to talk to and to share with him.

she never complain about him not holding her hand in public because she like it more when he's holding her hand while he's driving.

she used to think that there's no place is too far away to drive if she's with him.

but tonight is the road are just so long for her.

she remember the day before.

they are both in the same car.

and both of them are not talking too.

she tried to make a conversation. 

"have you eaten yet?"

but it was replied by the silence. 

"have you taken you bath?"

she tried again.

still no answer. 

nowadays they don't talk much.

but they argue so much.

she told herself as long as she doesn't give up everything will be fine.

she just need to fight.

tonight she's so exhausted and suffocated.

she's been hurting too much. 

suddenly she stop trying.

she decided to go with the flow.

keeping the silence because there's really nothing to share. 

"so this is it the stage of 'comfortable and going downhill' they are all talking about"
she talking to herself and take a deep breath before she pull up the handbrake.  

after an hour they've finally arrived to their destination. 

he took his things off leave without a word. 

and she also continued driving without any words. 

she keep thinking on her way driving home.

how their relationship has change so much during this past few years.
probably staying in a relationship for too long really does make you tired of it.
she was always a fighter.

as the song on the radio was playing,

"say something i'm giving up on you"

she cried her heart out.

because tonight she gave up.

p.s

i finally decided to take my muet this year so i am gonna be practicing my writing skill from time to time konon.  

i hope it won't irritate you.

and i am so bad at grammar so, do comment if i have things i need to make a correction.

majulah english untuk negara. kekeke

XXXX,

 l i l i e j o h  n

Hope

Many people can still live in this world because of this word.
H.O.P.E
And among the many,i'm one of them.

I betray myself so many time.
I sometimes curse my own family for being so hard on me.(which i shouldn't!)
I do love my job but sometimes i feel like it's just not my passion. and i hate myself for not even know what my passion are.
I curse the politician for all their drama and promises just to get their vote.
And i don't even know what the future holds for me but i always have HOPE.
Hope for a better living and world ahead.
hope for a brighter future ahead.
hope for more happiness.
so many hope that i let myself get hurt believing that every pain i endure will pay off later.
and yes, i still choose to keep on hoping.

cause hope give me so much reason to hold on out of nothing.

XOXO,
l i l i e

i hope you die first.

"i hope you will die first"

said the husband to his wife one day.

the wife was a little bit shock hearing the words coming out from her husband's mouth.

that day was actually their 50th years marriage anniversary.

"what's wrong honey? why did you say that out of sudden?"

and then the husband hold his wife hands and said.

"if i die first, you'll be alone in this world and i knew it's going to hurt you. 

i wanted to stay by your side until your last breath. 

we're getting old and i am too old to protect you now. 

that's the only way i can protect you. 

so, i hope you will die first and let me finish the rest of the life cherishing our moment together"

the wife then smile. 

for she always knew she have found her true soul-mate 50 years ago. 

***

i wanted to live the rest of my life with a man like the uncle from the story above.

i believe all girls want too.

good-luck to those who still looking for their soul-mate and congrats to those who have found theirs. 

sekian entry pendek dari saya.

p/s,

tok janggut jangan pikir mau mati ja k. 

ingatlah orang yang tersayang. ;-p

XOXO,

l i l i e s. j o h n