little conversation

i went to sewing class this evening and i met some new friends.

and most of them are older than me.

you see, i am so bad at talking to the older because i just don't know what topic should i talk.

Aunty sebelah meja: 

adik ni kerja ka?

me: 

arrr, iya aunty.

aunty sebelah meja: 

owh, di mana?

me: 

di hospital mesra. (with a smile)

aunty sebelah meja : 

owhhhh..........................

me:

.............................. *awkward

(sinyum saja la sambil pura-pura fokus menjahit, takut kana soal banyak.. haha)

this incident actually happened so many times to me. 

i don't have skills to talk to an elder.. 

i don't know what topic they love to talk to, i don't know how to improvise the conversation, and what i'm afraid most is that i might say something i shouldn't and the aunty might misunderstood it!

and then, time goes by.

i proceed with my sewing project and the aunty proceed with hers until........ 

me: 

errr, aunty, boleh kah saya pinjam kapur aunty? kapur saya warna kuning saja owh..susah, tidak nampak di kain saya. 

amboi, kalau bab minta tolong, panjang pula saya bercakap yerr.. 

aunty sebelah meja: owh bah, pinjam lah nak.. :)

the aunty are so friendly that makes me feels bad for ignoring her. 

then, i decide to have maybe a little conversation with her.

me: 

(setelah berfikir panjang apa soalan yang harus ditanya) 

aunty berapa lama sudah ikut ni kelas menjahit?

aunty: 

owh, baru juga ba awal januari aunty ikut ni. boring kan tiada mau buat di rumah. anak-anak aunty yang perempuan smua sudah kahwin, yang bujang lelaki ja, tapi semua pun sibuk kerja.

*see, this is the example of a good answer! jangan jawab macam saya tadi k tuan-tuan dan puan-puan. 

me:
 anak aunty ada yang hensem ka?? 

haha.. kidding. we shouldn't ask that to an elder ok. bikin malu.

me: 

owh, yalah bah kan, boring bah duduk di rumah ja. saya yang kerja ni pun boring juga di rumah kalau satu orang ja. 

aunty: 

belum kawin lagi kau nak?

me:belum lagi aunty. belum ada rezeki. ngehehe

aunty: berapa bah umur mu ni nak?

me: 23 tahun kenen aunty.. (jangan persoalkan umur saya. august is not here yet k. haha)

aunty: 
aie, muda bah lagi kau ni. memang minat menjahit kah?

me: 

hmmm.. minat juga lah aunty, hari tu saya beli mesin jahit bah tapi tidak pandai jahit. itu yang mau ikut ni kelas ni, sayang tu mesin tidak kena guna. :)

k, good answer. ada peningkatan dari segi menjawab soalan subjektif.

aunty: iya bah nak. bagus lah tu.. nanti kalau kau sudah kawin nda ada masa suda kau mo ikut-ikut ni, mana lagi mo jaga anak, kalau dapat suami yang control lagi la susah. haha.. jadi kau tinggal di mana ni nak??

and blah-blah-blah.

sampai habis kelas bercerita. 

classes become more interesting if you have someone to talk to actually.

so, is it that difficult to talk to an elder?

for me, YES, it's still difficult.

but i'm learning and i think i'm improving.

next class, i'll be seeing more elder since most of the participant in sewing class are an aunty-aunty and mama-mama, so, i think i'll get better in the elder conversational skill. 

i think the most important things in a conversation (no matter to an elder, friends or family) is being yourself. 

don't try to be other people. 

but to an elder, maybe we need to choose a better words to use.

dan paling penting cakap la dengan bersopan manatau ada aunty-aunty tiba tiba cakap...

"sudakah dikau menjadi menantu mithali ku?" 

wah. kelas kau Mariah! 

haha

k that's all for tonight...

owh, it's morning already.

happy 19th of APRIL people!!

p/s

owh ya, if you have time maybe you wanted to visit my other blog.. just CLICK here. 

thank you. :)
and thank you for the correction tok janggut! :P

XOXO,

l i l i e s. j o h n.